This Mothers Day...Be Your Own Best Mother


Mothers Day is this Sunday and women everywhere are celebrated for all the magnificent love, sacrifice, and care that they give to their beloved families. While many moms are loving, giving, nurturing and supportive, sometimes they can be overly critical, unsupportive, checked out, preoccupied or even competitive with us.  Most of our moms truly love us and want the very best for us, but being only human, they may have unknowingly created some damage to our self esteem along the way.

Perhaps you’ve come to a place of compassion, understanding that given your mom’s own upbringing and her own limitations, she truly loved you and did the best she could. And hopefully, you forgive her for what she didn't or couldn't do, or maybe did too much of.  But now what? What do you with any scars or insecurities left over from your childhood?  Forgiveness and understanding doesn’t always clear away the end result. You’re often left self critical, insecure and not able to shine as you’re truly meant to shine. You walk around so much less than you could be, weighed down by your old beliefs and insecurities ( most that were never even true) and no longer serve you.

I work with my clients everyday, in many different ways, to help them heal their inner child. 

Here is the antidote:  Be your own best mother.  Even if you had a great mother, still, become your own best mother. We can have damaged self esteem from our fathers or siblings, our peers or any number of factors.  Developing this unconditional mothering of yourself is the key to healing. Learn to develop that inner loving voice that supports you and nourishes you, and it will eventually heal you and allow you to be in your power and the best version of yourself. Here are just a few ways to start the healing and to begin reprogramming  yourself to the road of self acceptance and self love.

1. Throughout the day continually praise yourself for little and big things. Say, to yourself, as if to a child, (out loud or looking into a mirror, if possible), “ Wow! You did a great job being patient. “ or “ You’re so funny, I love the way you think”, or “This lipstick looks amazing on you- you’re so radiant and beautiful”, “ You were so caring today, You’re a really great friend”,  or “  Wow, even though you weren’t in the mood , you went to the gym and got a workout - I’m proud of you!”  Just start complimenting and acknowledging yourself throughout the day. Make yourself do this no matter how goofy it feels. And not just once a day. We’re talking once an hour!

2. Rub your face lovingly during the day and say, “I love you.” Again, might feel awkward or silly but push through it. It can be powerful and healing. Before bed and when you wake up , rub your face and say loving things to yourself. All the things you wanted and needed to hear.

3. Do those things you always wanted to do as a child but never had the chance.  If you wanted to horse back ride but your family couldn’t afford it, go get on a horse. Maybe you wanted to paint or learn to play an instrument. If you loved dancing, but stopped when you got older- find a dance class or just take dance breaks to your favorite songs at home. When you do these activities, let your inner child know you are doing it for and with them.

Acknowledging that you have a child inside that needs unconditional love and praise is the first step. Giving it to her or him is the second.  Give these simple methods a try and see how it feels and let me know how it goes for you.

If you want to go within and work more deeply with your inner child, I have created a process called Inner Child Guided Healings. My clients often have amazing transformations, and deep healings from this work..It is really quite profound. If you want to learn more about it, there’s more info here on my website or just drop me a note and we can arrange a quick call.

Wishing a very Happy Mothers Day to all the Mothers in your life…and especially to the Mother inside of you.

This Halloween, Here's How to Contact Your Loved Ones on the Other Side


Would you like to try, totally on our own, to contact your loved ones who have passed on? If this is something you have been wanting to do or even just thinking about… Halloween is really the best time of the year to give it a try! 

Most of us think of Halloween as a holiday for kids, costumes and candy. But it was originally a festival that celebrated those who died and the world of the supernatural. The Celts used the term "Samhain" ( pronounced “Sow-wen" ) and the pagans still do. It was a unique time to make contact with the dead and to show them our respect, and admiration.

As an Intuitive Psychic Medium, I receive messages and guidance for my clients every day from the spirit realm. And I can tell you that on Halloween, and the week leading up to it, the veil between this world and the spirit world is definitely the thinnest! 

It really is when the world of the living and the world of the spirits are closest together. Which is why it's an amazing time to give and to receive readings and also a powerful time for you to try to contact your loved ones on your own!

I like to compare giving readings and accessing information from the spirit realm to talking on a cellphone.  Some conversations are crystal clear - I know who is speaking and exactly what they're saying. Other times, there can be some static on the line or even a dropped call.  Sometimes I get the message, but it’s not clear who's on the other end. Perhaps I get the first letter of a person's name, or maybe what they look like.. but not their name. 

But during the last week in October, and especially on Halloween, the “reception ” to the spirit realm is very clear and the channels of communication are much more easily accessed. For those of you who usually can't get a signal, this can create special opportunities for you to be able to hear or to feel a little something from the other side! 

 So.. if you want to contact your loved ones who have passed on….Halloween is the perfect time to “call” on them for their guidance and wisdom or just for them to let you know that they are watching over you.. because they are.

Here then, are my suggestions for you:

The week of Halloween, set an intention about whom you'd like to make contact with. Say out loud something like: “This week I really want to connect and contact you, Mom. I love and miss you and I’m hoping you’ll send me signs or somehow let me know you’re around me.” 

Try creating a little alter, a place for you to set their photograph, and anything you have that belonged to them. Include anything you feel is sacred or connects you to them, or that connects you to Spirit or to God. Put a candle there, light it and sit and think about them for a few minutes each day. Say aloud or to yourself that you want to connect with them and ask them for a signal so you will know they are there. 

As Halloween approaches, and especially on Halloween, increase your efforts..You might ask them to change the direction of the candle flame, or flicker the lights. But be open to whatever presents itself as a sign. Each spirit has different abilities to control and manipulate energy. Some work with lights, others with sound or scents or moving objects.  They may come through as a bird at the window that seems especially focused and interested in making eye contact with you!

Pay attention to any songs that have a connection to them in some way and notice if you keep hearing that song being played. You might even suddenly smell their perfume or scent. Be mindful of suddenly seeing pennies or coins in your path. 

You can ask them to come to you in your dreams —this is a very real and easy way for our loved ones to meet with us.

Try writing down your favorite memories of them, something you learned from them, or ask a question you want guidance on,  or an answer to. And then keep writing and see if anything comes through your own writing, almost as if they are writing through you - and using your hand and pen to do so. This is called automatic writing. 

Ask them a question you would like guidance on and see if during the day something presents itself to you that is an answer to that question. 

Try any, or all of these ways to help you to reach your loved ones and for them to try to reach you. It’s important to stay aware and open and positive.  You may be amazed at all the signs and signals your loved ones in spirit send your way during this magical and mysterious time! 

And should you want guidance and a reading with me during this special time when the veil is at its thinnest— You can set up a session with me right here on my website.  

Love & Light, 


Having Trouble Finding Love and Meeting Your Soulmate? Try This!


I am a Psychic Intuitive Counselor, who helps people with their relationships, and sometimes, with their lack of one.  My clients often ask me, "Why can't I meet somebody?"  "When will I find my soulmate ?"  and,  "Am I destined to be alone?"  Many people are quite actively trying to bring in the love they are hoping for. Some use online dating sites while others say affirmations, read about manifesting, and optimistically create visions boards. There are those who pray to God, or to their Angels and Guides, or perhaps to their Mom or Dad in spirit. They ask them to help them to meet their soul mate or even to just find a good solid partner.

Still,  they cant seem to find love. And they come to me asking why? When? And will they ever find love?  Sometimes, I say, "Yes! I feel he or she is very close to you...very close ! " --  But there is a big obstacle these days when it comes to people connecting with one another.

Here's what's happening..The Universe hears them. Their guides and angels, and loved ones in spirit heard their prayers to help them find love. And they conspired, and planned and plotted to get them together with a wonderful partner. And finally, they're able to make it all happen. Divine forces helped to get these two souls together at last. They may be sitting next to each on a plane. Or perhaps they're both at the same coffee shop at the same time everyday. Or they both wait at the bus stop each morning on their commute to work. And there they are..side by side. So close to connecting.. But neither one of them looks up from their phone! They are both so busy reading emails or checking Social Media that they miss their opportunity for a real life interaction and the opportunity to discover a new love that is literally right in front of them!

Sometimes I see issues from a client's past that blocks their ability to be in a healthy relationship. And when I do,  we work through this during their session. But other times the guidance I receive for them is very simple...Look up from your phone! Make eye contact, smile or say hello to someone who looks nice and you who are attracted to. Be present and pay attention to who is around you. The opportunity for love is often right there in front of you, just waiting to be discovered. If you're having challenges in your relationship or having trouble finding one - Let's talk - a session with me can set you on the path to finding the love you want and deserve. 



Having Trouble Making Decisions?  Here's 3 Powerful Ways To Ask Your Guides For Answers


Decisions can be hard to make. Every choice has consequences and clients often come to me looking for answers because using my psychic and intuitive abilities, I can easily connect with the guides and higher consciousness and receive information for them. But all of us have access to our guides and angels. And yes, that means you do too!  

We all can connect with our intuition and our guides.  Our spirit guides help us and guide us all the time without our ever even knowing it. And when we’re able to make contact and have access to our guides, they will answer our questions and share guidance in truly magical and powerful ways. 

There are many ways to get answers. I have chosen three I like and invite you to try them out and see which ones resonate for you! They may take practice and a little time to cultivate — so be patient and know that your spirit guides truly want to connect with you as much as you want to connect with them! Even more so, since helping you is their purpose! 

If you’re not feelin’ it after the first few tries, don’t be discouraged. Stay relaxed and patient. This may take some practice and cognizance. And, try to be open minded… Don’t have a preconceived idea about what “contact” might look like. I literally thought I would hear them speaking in my ear — and although my whole life I received chills indicating a “yes”  — I was expecting a different sign and so for a long time these tangible and real communications were not properly acknowledged. 

1. Pay Attention to Your Feelings

One way you can receive answers from your guides and your higher self is by paying close attention to your feelings.  The expression, “ That gives me goose bumps “, “I have the chills” or “I got a pit in my stomach”,  are expressions that indicate to us whether something is a positive or negative action to take. 

During my readings, or when I ask for direction in making a decision about someone or something,  I often get a strong “chill” that confirms to me that I am making the right choice or sharing the right information. 

Where in your body do you have feelings of knowing? How does it feel to you when something feels right? How does it feel when something feels wrong? Often people will say, " I knew I shouldn't have done that" or " I just knew I should have listened to my instincts", or “I just knew he or she was or wasn’t right".  

Think back to how you felt when those "knowing" feelings presented themselves to you. Start to ask questions that you want guidance on and then pay attention to how you feel. In time you will learn to trust those feelings from higher consciousness and they will help you make your decisions.

2. Do a Mindless or Repetitive Task

Before you begin your chosen task, ask your guides, angels and higher self for guidance on the issue at hand.  Then commit to doing your activity and not thinking about the question.   Start your task of chopping veggies, folding laundry, peeling carrots, or any activity that’s repetitive and doesn’t require thought. As much as possible, focus on the task and try not to think of anything else. Wait and see if you receive an answer or an image of what to do.

3. The Traffic Light

When I am doing a reading I sometimes ask the guides to use the image of a traffic light to let me know if the answer is a “yes” or a “no” - a “stop” or a “go”, or sometimes, a “proceed with caution.” Ask your question and then ask your guides to show a color on the traffic light to indicate the answer. You need to first give them the parameters and symbols to use. Tell them what the colors mean  -  a green for yes, a red for no, and a yellow for proceed with caution:  Start to do this for little things and see how it goes. Then build up to bigger questions.

Your guides, angels and your higher self..they all want to help you make good choices. We are meant to have this connection, and you CAN cultivate it. So be patient, don’t think too hard, and have fun with it!  In the meantime, if you'd like some guidance and insights on next steps to take, I'm always here for a session. 

I'd love to hear how it goes for you. Let me know! 

Love & Light